Before we begin, do me a favor and write a list of names of people that you love the most.
How many names did you write before you realized that you left out your own name? 4,5,6? You may have even completed the task and written down all the names of friends and family you love without considering yourself.
This is typical, but it needs to change. Most of us would not put our own names down because we fear we are being selfish. Loving ourselves does not mean that we are selfish. It just means we understand our own needs/wants and can still help those around us when the time comes.
Today onwards, when we are asked again this question we will be ready to add our own name to the list. We are just as important as anyone else.
Here are 5 ways we can start appreciating ourselves today:
1) Start spending time alone
We are social creatures and it’s normal to want to spend time with our friends and family. But often times when we’re around others, we’re not focused on our needs. We are focused on the needs of the group. For example, are my friends and family members full, are they enjoying our time together, or are they injury free?
By taking ourselves out of the group periodically and doing activities by ourselves, we get to know ourselves a little better. We will gain a better understanding of what we like and dislike vs just going along with the group, which is hard to realize during our hangout sessions. So what kind of activities can we do by ourselves that allow for self discovery?
-going to the movies
-going on walks
-going out to eat
The list is endless. Create your own and discover yourself today.
2) Stop comparing yourself to others
By comparing ourselves to others we rob ourselves of self worth and confidence, only because there will always be someone out there who is better at something than we are or darker and prettier than we are. We all grow and specialize in things at different rates. Let’s grow at our own speed and realize that our strengths and weaknesses are our own and that’s what makes us special.
3) Focus on your needs
Begin by writing a list of things that you need emotionally, things that are vital, and things that change your mood (positively and negatively). By understanding what is important to us, we can focus on those needs and make changes to our environment and companionship whenever necessary.
Whatever is important to us is important. Never ignore it.
4) Perform self affirmations
This activity allows for us to sit down and to focus on our strengths – and sometimes even weaknesses. Self affirmation can be achieved in many ways. We can write down our strengths or we can speak it. Either methods works. Just pinpoint areas we are excelling at and appreciate them. When we feel good, we do good.
Often times we focus too much on the needs of others instead of ourselves and this can be detrimental not just in our relationships but our careers. There are individuals out there that take our unselfish behavior and use it to their advantage. By learning to love ourselves through these 5 methods, we can learn to focus on our needs and benefit in many ways: less stress, more self confidence and esteem.
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