Many people in today’s technologically advanced society are guilty of the following: comparing our own lives to others. Sometimes we do it subconsciously and other times we do it deliberately. There is even a psychological term – seems to be one for everything – for what occurs when we compare our lives to others and that term is FOMO: fear of missing out. Fear of missing out typically occurs when we log onto our social media accounts and see that individuals are doing things we wished we were doing.
First off, we need to realize that people often times put their best foot forward when they are talking with others or are on social media. If we were to spend the day talking to the particular individual we compare ourselves with, we will see that they themselves are struggling with a variety of things: depression, illness, anxiety, or financial situations.
Taking control of this habit will help us tremendously in the future since as we age, the things we can compare ourselves with others gets longer: job title, income level, house size, # of children, relationship status-the list goes on.
So, why should you stop comparing yourself with others? Here are 3 reasons:
1. Realize that what people post on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and a variety of other social media mediums are not true depictions of who they are or what they go through every day. People often times depict the positives of their lives because it is what sells. If we were to become ill, we would realize that people will only care for so long only because happy things excite people more than sad situations.
Remember that social media is just a tool that should be used to stay connected with old classmates, friends, family, and, possibly even, coworkers.
2. Realize that what we do, great or small, is unique to ourselves. We may sing on our spare time and that may seem boring to others, but if we derive enjoyment from it than that is all that should matter.
3. Realize, that living big – going on vacation,having nice cars, and a big house – does not entail a sound financial situation or life.
According to investmentwatchblog.com, ” America looks rich. Big cars, big houses, big military. We paid paid for it with BIG Debt: Credit Card Debit, Student-loan, mortgage, National Debt!” Furthermore, Nerdwallet states on their website that “The average household has $130,922 in debt — $15,762 of it on credit cards. ”
If we decide to compare, compare our today’s best to our yesterday to see if we are improving in our goals.
Remember this, there will always be someone out there who is taller, prettier, smarter, and even darker in skin complexion than us.
Best of all, practice and be grateful for the day to day activities you partake in.